People always say — follow your gut.
But then why don’t we do it?
In this case, I’m talking about men. More specifically, the bad boy.
Most of my girlfriends are either attracted to the oh-so-bad-but-oh-so-good one or they play it safe with mr-wholesome. Next to never they hit middle ground.
When they have the bad boy, they want the good boy — and vice versa. Kinda like the debate over curly hair or straight hair, and bangs or no bangs. :)
The bad boy swoops in and consumes your life. Energy, tension, passion… they all keep you wanting more. You know he isn’t anything near ‘the one’, yet you still lust for him. You can’t get him out of your life. You create more space for him in your life.
Your head says no and your heart says maybe… maybe, just maybe we can make it work.
One day he will change.
One day he will treat you with respect.
One day he will appreciate you.
But then he does something that crosses the line.
And it’s game over.
I feel like it is sometimes hard to hit the middle ground. It is too much like walking a tight-rope…if you get it wrong, then you’re done for.
Never been the bad boy, always been the nice guy. Now single for the first time in 15 years and you have discouraged me that even as women age, they don’t change what they are attracted to.
I’m a strong believer that people often change what they are attracted to when someone walks into their life that is different than what they know. I’ve always run into ‘bad boy’ types, but I know I’d never settle for one. I also know I’d never cheat for one.
I hope you find a Man soon, sounds like you need attention
Oh Pippa, your comments make me laugh. It’s funny you still read my blog – you almost always have something negative to say. :)